Everyday should be AIDS testing day!!!!

National AIDS testing day has just passed and I am curious just to find out how many people know their status....As I watched the last episode of Noah's Arc, I thought in retrospect of when I was confronted with a similar issue. In this episode, character Ricky became ill and to his friends surprise, they found that Ricky has never been tested before. Ricky is a really promiscuous individual, who has had many sexual partners. When asked by his friends if he practiced safe sex, Ricky admitted that he has had an occasional slip-up. Slip-up.........something I am sure that most are guilty of...but is it worth the risk? Ricky had his test done and found that he was negative, but the person that he has fell so deeply for was not. Ricky had not been intimate with this individual prior to finding this out.
I always wondered how difficult it must be for someone to tell a person they care so deeply for that they are HIV positive. More than that, I wondered how I would react to someone tellin me that. I never thought in my life that I would ever be in that situation, but I guess it was written.....I remember meeting this person who later became very special to me. It was about a three weeks into us dating that he had told me the story....it went something like this....the last time I had sex was in January. The time before that was in October. The person o had sex with in October found out that they are HIV positive..........Okay my first reaction was silence as would anyone's, but I was not worried because this person and I had not been intimate prior to this. I was overcome with all types of emotions and feelings, but to my surprise my reaction was much more different than what I had expected them to be. I took a deep breath and wrapped my arms around him and said "it is going to be okay." Did I really just utter those words from my mouth? Did I care so deeply for this person that quickly that I was willing to stay with them for the worse? Was it that I just have a loving heart and did not want to see anyone so young going through this? Or was it that I did not know my status so I was feeling a little guilty? Well whatever the case was I knew that I wasn't going to just leave them like that. I held them in my arms and we discussed the next course of action. They explained to me that they had been tested since then and was negative but had to be checked again to be absolutely cleared. At that moment I also made a decision within myself that I was going to find out my status as well. Up until that time, I did not feel that I had done anything risky but also knew that was just a security blanket for my conscience. I went and found out for myself and it felt as if the world was lifted from my shoulders when the results of negative were given to me. I was even happier when my now lover had been given the all clear as well. Prior to this incident, I really never asked for peoples status and to my suprise through chatting online and blogging, I found that there are people out there that will not tell you they are positive unless you ask them directly.....frightening!!!! Within the next few post from me, I am going to continue on this subject.

I know my status.....do you know yours??????????

Much love "Solo," you don't know it but not a day goes by that I don't think about how much you mean to me.....I will always love you!!!!

DaLite's Arc

I am sure that most if not all of you have heard of the new series Noah’s Arc. If not, it is a series about four gay friends dealing with the issues that come along with “the life”. My first time watching the show, I found myself comparing my friends and myself to the characters. I have three close friends of mine in the life. Mike, who is the feminine one; Malik, who is the loud, wants to be involved in everything one; Mar, who is the laid back, relaxed one; and myself, Dior who is the flirtatious, sexy one, who needs all eyes on him. Now the characters of Noah’s Arc are: Noah, Alex, Chance, and Ricky. Noah would be the equivalent of my friend Mike; Alex would be the equivalent to Malik; Chance would be the equivalent to Mar; and Ricky would be the equivalent to myself. While this is a gay soap opera, my story is real life. In this episode, being told by Dior, Mike and Dior deal with the struggle of dating each other’s ex’s.
I met Mike a few years ago while out at my first gay club. We stood across the room from each other and just flirted back in forth. I was new to the gay scene and wasn’t sure how to approach. At the end of the night, better known as the let out, I finally decided I was going to speak to Mike. Mike and I talked and from the first conversation, I knew we would be nothing more than friends. You see Mike was very comfortable about his sexuality and I was still dealing with the “I do not want anyone to know” stage. That was a little over three years ago and Mike has been my good friend every since. Mike and I share a lot of things in common, one being taste in men. You see Mike has this previous lover that he was with before we met named Pooh and I have this guy I used to date named Fox…….the name speaks for itself. One night while we were out at a party, I noticed Pooh checking me out across the room. I wasn’t sure if it was the drinks or If he was really flirting but I knew he was staring. I told Mike that night that I thought Pooh was interested in me, and his reply and me was “ go for it honey!” Although he gave me his wishes, there was still a little shade in his voice. So I left it alone. A few weeks later Mike and I was on a strip in Philly known as South Street doing our weekend routine of shopping for something to wear to the next party. While on our shopping excursion, I ran into Fox, who inquired if Mike was my new lover or not. I told him “no, he is my best friend.” Fox replied that he was hot and he wanted me to hook it up. That did not sit well with me and I read him to pieces in my own way. I told Mike that he was questioning about him and also that Fox was someone I used to date but was not intimate with. In the next few days to follow, I got several text messages from Fox asking me to introduce he and Mike. I told him no and if he wanted to talk to Mike he will do it on his own. Well a few weeks later Mike confessed to me that he had met Fox on the infamous internet and they have been talking for about a week. Meanwhile Pooh had previously given me his number, but I had not called him until I had a chance to run it by Mike again. His reply once again was “ if you like it, I love it.” And that was the end of that. Now in the next few weeks Mike and Fox have been going out on dates and eventually hooked- up. Pooh and I have talked over the phone and went out a few times to eat but that is it. No hooking up or nothing. Well last night while out in the club Pooh decided he was going to turn up the heat and be all over me in the club and shout out that I was his and for everyone to stop trying to holla’ at me. I told him to stop and pushed him away because I felt he was being disrespectful to Mike. Mike was there in full view and was not feeling the situation. Everyone was feeling “nice” and the emotions started to flow. Mike told me not to speak to him and he and Pooh got into a shouting match. All I remember hearing was Mike saying you can never be me and Pooh’s friend say “pay that child, Greg looks better anyway.” Adding more fuel to the fire. I stood there amazed as all this unfolded before my eyes…….tomorrow part II



left to right: Mike, Mar, Dior and Malik

Now Introducing..........

The light... the skin... the face... that boy......It has been a while, but after an all to exciting summer I am back as "DaLite1." I have not lost contact with all bloggers that I have met and promised them that this time I am here to stay. I am fresh from ATL and need to get settled back in, but look forward to hearing all about my summer....this includes my new move, my travels, the fight( yes physical), my new job, and all the teas. Please support my boy and check out http://www.ballroomrockstar.com/